Dooley M

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Waking Up From Home Dreams

By Dooley M June 11, 2025Personal

One of the challenges of my mother being homeless is focusing on anything to do with my own well-being. This includes ensuring I have an appropriate home. After many, many…

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The last of my mother’s things on this last day of the year

By Dooley M December 31, 2024Family

After a year of closing my mother's storage unit, I moved the final load of my mother's belongings out. I started last December with the easiest belongings to deal with…

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Why my homeless mother will never live indoors again

By Dooley M August 4, 2024Family

It is all too common for people with serious mental illness (SMI) to end up on the street. For example, a recent study on homelessness found that "about 25 percent…

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Mental Illnesses are Traumatic Events

By Dooley M March 11, 2024Community

Image: Wisconsin Death Trip, detail of a photograph by Charles Van Schaick Mental illnesses are traumatic events, as we say in the family support groups that I attend and facilitate.…

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When a homeless person goes missing

By Dooley M August 4, 2023Family

Two years ago, my mother, who was and is homeless, went to the hospital with physical symptoms and was admitted. After some visits and discussions, she agreed to go to…

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Opening the second missing persons report for my mother

By Dooley M July 6, 2023Personal

Some things are easier the second time around. Opening a missing persons report turned out to be one of those things for me. Not easy, but easier. Opening the first…

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My unpopular opinion: It’s okay to say “mentally ill.”

By Dooley M June 30, 2023Community

When I was in college, I had a roommate who found a great many things weird. She used "weird" to describe things more than any other word. In an effort…

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My missing mother: I don’t know a whole lot

By Dooley M June 22, 2023Personal

I opened an envelope and it all changed. Her bank statement has two deposits, her social security and her pension, and no withdrawals. No withdrawals can mean anything, but nothing…

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Coming back to myself

By Dooley M December 16, 2022Personal

Here I am, coming back to myself after a long time away. I hardly know where to start. The awkward pauses, shuffling on the porch. Remembering how to meet my…

I relocated a spider

By Dooley M June 25, 2022Personal

I relocated a spider this morning before my shower saying, "You do you, just not in the bathtub." Feeling how life has relocated me. Remembering the many times I've ushered…

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I thought I saw her on the train platform last night

By Dooley M May 21, 2022Family

I was coming back from a circus show in North Beach. I had gotten there by train, the same train I took to visit my mother when she was in…

My mentally ill, homeless mother and COVID-19

By Dooley M January 12, 2022Family

Turning the new year and coming on the two year anniversary of the COVID lockdown, I am thinking about my mother and her challenges over the past couple years. When…